Ask Jay is ZUMI’s weekly relationship advice column.
I met a guy last year and we really connected. He became very comfortable with telling me about his past relationships and everything I needed to know. Along the line, I noticed I had started to like him and he said he liked me too.
Months passed and we kept talking but he never said anything about us starting a real relationship. I actually met him on a hookup page on Instagram so I expected us to build something serious together. To be honest, I have never wanted any guy as much as I want him. I wanted to send him a text about the way I feel but I thought it wise to first ask for your opinion.
Should I tell him how I feel? Please help me.
It can be really confusing when you like someone and you don’t know how they feel about you. However, before you make any major decisions, check his actions. These are always more significant than words. Does he act like a boyfriend? Does he call you often? Does he love to hang out with you?
If his actions show he cares for you and you have no reason to think he’s involved with someone else, you may approach him and express your feelings. Don’t do it via text message, however. Have a one-on-one conversation with him so you can check his body language too.
It’s possible he’s just not ready to be in a serious relationship and if that’s the case, talking about it can be helpful in determining your next steps. There’s also a chance he’s simply worried about expressing his feelings if he’s not sure of yours. So, hearing you talk about how you feel may encourage him to open up. However, if he’s hesitant to make a commitment, be sure to move on as quickly as possible.
What do you think she should do in this situation? Please share your thoughts in the comment section. Also, read Jay’s advice to a woman who loves an emotionally unstable man.
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